Memang betul poligami tu hukum Allah, tapi setakat mana saudara dan spesis2 saudara faham akan maksud hukum ALLAH? Adakah antara di antara saudara yang sudah memeriksa kandungan AL-QURAN, ambil tahu apa yang ALLAH bicarakan tentang poligami?
Mari saya bawakan ayat tersebut ya saudara-saudari sekalian.
POLIGAMY hanya disebutkan dalam surah AN-NISA
4: 2. And give to the orphans their property, and do not substitute worthless (things) for (their) good (ones), and do not devour their property (as an addition) to your own property; this is surely a great crime.
4: 3. And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.
4: 4. And give women their dowries as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you a portion of it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result.
Shakir's Quran Translation
Please read the above ayaat from 1 until 4 and let me explain to you the context of these ayaat and also the polygamy that is mentioned there.
God says,
If you fear that YOU CANNOT ACT EQUITABLY TOWARDS ORPHANS, then marry such women......, 2, 3 and 4
- Any individual who can read will understand this ayat clearly without further translation. Poligamy is only allowed when orphans are involved!
But what happen in the world today esp in the Muslim world?
The religious people a.k.a MEN simply ignore this - “And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans” - and only mention “Kahwinlah kamu 2, 3 dan empat…..” to justify their sexual needs! How does that make sense?
"Oh, a man's sexual drive is really high! So, you can't blame a guy for marrying more."
How in God's world does that justify polygamy? Well, it doesn't!!
Al-QURAN adalah pelengkap segala hukum. I think everyone knows that. Don’t all that are mentioned in the QURAN complete the polygamy hukum already? IF AND ONLY IF ORPHANS are involved, and because you are afraid that you cannot do just towards them, maka baru lah boleh kahwin lebih dari satu.
There is even a warning by ALLAH!
4:129. Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so). But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful. - Pickthal's Quran Translation
TAPI APA SUDAH JADI SEKARANG?
Lelaki kahwin lebih dari satu kerana………
1) NAFSU SEKS LELAKI MEMANG TINGGI, SO KALAU MERANTAU KENA LA KAWIN LAGI. APA TU - MISYAR!
2) PEREMPUAN TU MUDA DAN CANTIK, BAIK PULAK TUH. MANA TAHAN.
3) ISTERI AKU DAH TUA AND CEREWET
4) AKU DAH TAK SAYANG KAT ISTERI, TP SAYANG SI DIA
5) AKU KAYA, AKU MAMPU, AKU KISAH APA
6) AKU BERZINA KARANG, HA! MANA KO NAK?
7) EH, BINI KENE DIAM2 EH. LAKI BLEH KAWIN 4 OK.
8) DAH NABI KAWIN SAMPAI 9, AKU BLEH LA KAWIN 4. KENE IKUT SUNNAH
And there are thousands of unimaginable reasons given by THESE CHAUVINIST MEN to justify their acts. How is this called JUSTICE?
Please look at the statistics in Malaysia especially, how many women were abused and ignored mentally and physically when the husbands decided to polygamy? How many husbands not treating the wives FAIRLY? How many women are FORCED to accept polygamy in the name of ISLAM?
Women are criticized heavily if we oppose polygamy because kononnya polygamy is supposedly a gate to enter ‘heaven’. But did they take into account the suffering (trauma, mental stress, heart-broken, disappointment, emotional pain, sometimes even pyhsical abuse) that a woman has to go through? Compare that with the number of polygamy families that live happily after after.. ( I do admit that there are some families who remain happy). Good for them.
It is when HUMANS take only what they want to suit their political, sexual, and other needs, the problems and sufferings begin to appear.